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I’ve been listening through Built to Spill’s discography since that was a band I just kind of missed entirely when they were of the cultural zeitgeist. You in Reverse makes me understand what made them such a big deal, but I’ve been enjoying the journey as a whole!

I rewatched Singin’ in the Rain while my friend and her daughter were in town and not only is it really a banger with so many incredibly funny and delightful bits — holding Lena Lamott’s voice reveal as long as they do is so perfect — I was also delighted to find out that kids also love old timey musicals! Adults would basically never get up and dance along with those characters with reckless enthusiasm! At least not without prior training.

We’ve been rewatching Masters of the Air because I guess when you don’t really want to take in anything new, you might as well pick an overall kind of hopeful but still ultimately depressing miniseries about WWII to rewatch. I know the internet has exhausted the concept of iPhone face with thinkpieces, but it really is such a useful metric for historical set pieces. Most of the faces in MOTA are solidly of the era — none better than Nate Mann and Matt Gavan — with really only Isabel May as an egregious misstep and that’s frankly pretty impressive with such a sizable cast.*

I recently liked You Should Be So Lucky and After Hours at Dooryard Books by Cat Sebastian who continues to write solid, enjoyable queer historical romances. (I’m not done with her new contemporary one yet, but it’s not my favorite thing I’ve ever read, which is fine!) I also really liked Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson but then immediately read a review that made me question my own literacy, so there’s that.

Technologically, I recently got a Kobo Clara B&W because I am trying to be on my phone less and I guess I convinced myself that if I had another ereader on rotation in order to juggle airplane-moded library books I would stop staring at my phone and while that hasn’t entirely happened, I do love the device! I picked it because it was well-reviewed and because I haven’t spent any money with Amazon since 2024 (and will continue not to!) but it is remarkably faster than my not-really-that-old Paperwhite and obscenely faster than my very, very old Oasis. Also the UI is better! And you don’t have to spend more money to not have ads! Which is an insane thing to have to feel good about!

More importantly though, in my quest to detach from my phone I have removed it from my bedside table to charge elsewhere, mostly to try to break myself of picking it up when I inevitably get up to pee in the middle of the night and less because I have trouble putting it down. And I’ve been successful! And sleeping better! And dreaming more! Probably because I am sleeping deeper, but I do think I’ll adopt some kind of conspiracy theory about cell signals causing brainwave interference. Just for fun. I still check it first thing in the morning, but I do think it’s guiding me toward fewer mindless pickups during the day too and that’s nice. I don’t think the phone is bad! My friends are in there! But I do like the feeling of being more ~intentional about it.

Okay, that’s it! This month we gave to some rent relief and mutual aid funds in the Twin Cities and I think this month we’ll be doing the same. I also donated to Buffalo’s Fire last year and it’s become one of my most read news sources, so I highly recommend it!

I hope you’re doing well wherever you are. As always let me know if you have somewhere you think I should donate or if you want to recommend me some pop culture or if you just have something you really need to say! ashrocketship [at] gmail, as always. Love you!

*: While we were watching Lord of the Rings, I had to pause and go off on a probably too long diatribe about how I couldn’t stand looking at Karl Urban in it because he just looked like some guy in a wig, absolutely zero believable fantasy face on him, and Crystal was like, “It’s funny that you like him in Star Trek,” and I was like, “That’s because he has… That man has tricorder face, is what he has.” This is now our default usage of this concept.

tunesday: march 2026

a square image of an old brick building covered with the remnants of winter dormant ivy, there is a bare-brached tree to the left and gray sky above

and the light today / reminded me of the winter you drove home

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I was just going to start rambling about how I listened to the Decemberists’ entire discography again and had a good time and then I realized I hadn’t copied and pasted the header in this post so I went to do that only to discover that I already talked about re-listening to the Decemberists… Cruelties of fate.

I was also going to talk about how I listened to a bunch of Bad Religion but then I typed a sentence and went… Where did I already type this? And it turns out it was tumblr (yes, tumblr still exists, yes there are people still using it, yes we’re having a great time thanks) where I got tagged in a meme and wrote about what I had been listening to, so let’s cheat the system and share that!

stuff i was listening to the week of february 6th:

(i heard the cover first and i think it’s really interesting to hear them back to back, how little he had to change to make it from the man’s perspective and how unsettling they both are for different reasons, i love covers and i love when they’re in conversation with each other!!)

  • melissa etheridge, “like the way i do” (incredibleeeee of the time styling in that video lmao – also my sister gave me a melissa etheridge album for christmas when i was like 10 and later on we were both like, ohhhhh yeah lmaooo)
  • wheatus, “love is a mutt from hell” (WHEATUS IS DEEPLY UNDERRATED!!!! even “teenage dirtbag” doesn’t get the credit it deserves!!!!! me and one guy on reddit get it)
  • bad religion, “21st century digital boy” (as a born and bred southern californian i am legally obliged to like bad religion but i also just like them normal-style, in many ways it is country music for people who grew up eating in-n-out bc it was cheap – this song was extremely prescient and then it seemed out of touch and now it’s gone back around again)

in general i have been listening to my february playlist and also your crystals cleansing and chardonnay aunt’s favorites because the weather is alternating between miserable and tricking me with false spring

I finished listening to You Should Be So Lucky by Cat Sebastian which I thought was delightful. I feel like I’ve read a lot of books this year, but I think I’ve just been consistent enough about reading every day (at least 15 minutes at a time, at least twice a day!) that it seems like I’m blowing through things but I’m really not. Which is fine! But confusing.

We’ve been spending most of our time working to get the guest bedroom/rest of the house in order for our friends who are coming to visit at the end of the month so most of my brain energy has been there. I did use our George Foreman grill the other night and remembered how much I love it. I survived college on the original version 20+ years ago and it continues to work exactly the way you need it too with little change except the one I have now is bigger. The infomercials had it right sometimes!

And also I guess if you too are in the Twin Cities, I highly recommend The Clapping Monkey coffee in (as our house search birthed, “I don’t want to live in damn honky
”) Fridley. By far the best iced mocha I’ve had in god knows how long and some great grilled cheeses also!

Okay, I guess that’s it? We haven’t made our donations yet this month, but I think we’ll probably donate to some more mutual aid groups and I hope you’ll find some close to you or in a vulnerable area and do that too!

tunesday: february 2026

a square image of an icy, snow-lined road leading toward a sunset seen through trees both bare deciduous and evergreen

or the feathers / of some unimaginable bird / that loves us

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You know it’s bad out there. I know it’s bad out there. I’m incredibly proud and grateful and amazed by the bravery and good I have seen people do. I’m going to talk about some pop culture type shit now.

I re-listened to the entire Decemberists discography in order this week and it was deeply enjoyable. I’m probably a bigger fan of their later catalog and The Hazards of Love remains my favorite album, but there really aren’t any misses in the bunch.

I also listened to Yasmine Hamdan’s I remember I forget — loved it right away and four or five listens later I am only more enamored. (Shoutout to Tommy for the rec!) — and Gully Boys’ self-titled album also got a handful of listens this month and is a great time, though my biggest repeat by far is “Big Boobs (ft. Zora)” which is an absolute banger.

We’re still rewatching The West Wing and frankly the less said about it the better (though that won’t stop me from posting later babey!), but I am fascinated by how much North Dakota gets mentioned and I really wonder who on the staff has the connection/random attachment. Also who’s the hockey fan because I don’t think there’s any American show that’s ever referenced it so much.

We also finally watched episode six of Heated Rivalry which was fine! I think I was always going to be hard on the show because the book does so many things I love. I did think the family stuff turned out fine, but I will remain disappointed by the changes made to Shane’s mom’s character (and Scott Hunter’s backstory, but that’s not relevant here) and it made it all less impactful, though if I’d come in without having read the book I’m sure it would’ve been great.

Okay, I think that’s it! We’ve been throwing money at various local groups and food drives, so I am recommending mutual aid through Liberation Twin Cities today, if you can spare it. Thank you! I love you!